May 12, 2021

A Catholic's Journey through IVF

A Catholic's Journey through IVF

Yes...the title says what it says. Although one wouldn't really think that the two would even go together. Well...according to today's teachings, they don't.

Let me set the background of my faith so that you could understand why  there was a change of heart. I grew up in a typical Mexican Catholic family. We went to church every Sunday, made big deals over almost anything in regards to the Church, and were very well knitted together as a family.

If I said that I stayed with my faith and never questioned it, I would for sure be lying...Like REALLY REALLY lying about that. There was a time my life where Church was the evil place everyone judges each other and nothing you did would ever please God. It was nothing to me at a point. I would actually say at times that if there was a God he had long left us to fend for ourselves...Yah not really painting a pretty picture of what my faith is.

However, what it was then is not what it is now. Yes I have a much better belief in God but that was through really understanding. Looking at the historical facts, listening to other people's encounters, and even witnessing great mercies. That is why I believe what I believe today. So yes, I still go to Church (when I actually get up), sing some praise and worship, and get involved (sometimes).

It wasn't until Izela and I got married that I started to think differently on this a little. Izela has the ability to carry but not conceive naturally. Meaning, everything is there but eggs. (Yes...I know, what a man way to say it). So the only option that we have is IVF. The Catholic Church always states that after church to "go forth and multiply" (Genesis 9:7). Kind of hard to do that in this situation, but thanks for playing.

I wasn't always for this though. There was a time when I flat out stated that we were not going to do this. That I was not going to jeopardize my faith and morality for this. There are other children out there who need help too....right?!

What changed my heart on this was the following. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her." (Ephesians 5:25) The cross we bear are no longer our own but shared as one since the day we said 'I do'. With our lives driven by the verse "Let all that you do be done in love." (1 Corinthians 16:14), the hardened heart I had for this broke free.

You see, as husbands we need to die to self and honor our wives. Whatever their struggles are also yours to help them through. This was something that I could do that would mean the world to her. Don't get me wrong, there was prayer that was involved and God surely opened many doors for this to happen. God has always been the foundation of our lives and He still is through this process. Our God is a merciful God. He knows our struggles, our pains, and every bit of our soul. If you don't believe me, read Psalm 139.

If God made man in his image, why wouldn't he give us the ability to learn and grow in technology? If we are a reflection of Him, wouldn't he already know about this technology and even more? We know God does things through other people and sometimes He has to hit us over the head to understand that this was his doing. So when I randomly stumble across a fertility clinic to pass to Izela, she is also given a name for a great doctor (which she forgot at the time), she then finds someone on her own she feels would be great...and in the end they are all the same person. Tell me God wasn't trying to tell us that this is who we needed to see.

The world is always changing, but God will always be the same: Loving, Merciful, and Grace Giving. There is no doubt where to go next.